fitting in or having the life you desire?
In a conversation with a friend one day, when asked how I was as
I moving through a problem that came into my life, I replied
that I was focusing on solutions. She responded that she would
do the same but since everyone else was complaining about
everything, she felt she wouldn't fit unless she did the same.
I asked her, and I ask you “Which is more important – fitting in
or having the life you desire?”
“The definition of Insanity is doing the same things, and
expecting different results.”
~ Albert Einstein ~
When you start focusing on your Desires, and you start to have
them and accomplish them, you will not longer “fit in” with the
people who choose to focus on the problems and the excuses. Only
you can decide if you want to fit in with the people who
criticize and complain, or fit in with the group of people who
are having and accomplishing their deepest Desires.
As you write your List of Desires, answering two questions with
each one may enlighten you and clarify your commitment:
1) How will I change?
2) How will this change my life?
“It's not so much that we're afraid of change or so in love with
the old ways, but it's that place in between that we fear . .
being between trapezes.
It's Linus when his blanket is in the dryer.
There's nothing to hold on to.”
~ Marilyn Ferguson~
Be deeply honest with yourself. Will you feel more freedom? Will
you feel happier? Will you be more generous? Will you be afraid
of what others will think and say? Will you be nice or mean?
Some people stop themselves because they are afraid of actually
having what they really Desire.
“The most important thing to remember is this:
To be ready at any moment to give up what you are for what you
~ W.E.B. Du Bois~
Others are afraid people may not like them.
”When you rise above the masses you will always become a
Just as a flower grows taller than the surrounding
and becomes a target for the nourishing sunshine,
it also becomes a target for attempts to be cut down..”
(original quote) Sumner Davenport ~
Others are afraid of becoming “like those mean or dishonest
“Success does not change a person,
it only allows them to express who they really are on a larger
~ Victor Frankl ~
By reviewing your reactions to the questions and your honest
answers, you will find your fears. However, accompanying those
fears will be your solutions. When you make an agreement with
yourself how you will grow in a positive way, you will be able
to see the obstacles that have been in your way. Some of these
obstacles may have been deep in your subconscious and now in the
light of your awareness, you can make conscious choices. Only
though being deeply honest with yourself will you see what has
been stopping you in the past, up until today. In the
unconscious these obstacles may be seen as large and
overwhelming as a mountain. In the light of your loving
acceptance, they can be reduced to the size of a pebble, and you
will be able to remove them from your path and continue moving
“The creative is the place where no one else has ever been.
You have to leave the city of your comfort
and go into the wilderness of your intuition.
What you'll discover will be wonderful.
What you'll discover
Alan Alda ~
When you write how you will change next to your Desires, you
will be reinforcing your positive change every time you read
“First say to yourself what you would be;
and then do what you have to do.”
~ Epictetus ~
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